|VRP: You wasted your money on that car.
|Green: The car you bought for $10,000 has 180 thousand miles on the odometer, cord showing through on the tires, a cracked windshield, a salvage sticker on it, a leaking headgasket and water pump, and a clamp squeezing down on a brake line.
|Saying that someone "wasted" anything is to judge and act from the Persecutor position, even if the speaker thinks that he or she is being helpful. The hearer has the judgment to decode and can view himself or herself as being Victimized.
|Listing Observations reports the facts, and, if done in a conversational tone, can be attended to and thought about by the hearer with his or her self esteem remaining intact.