VRP: You should have told me what you did, and the fact that you didn't proves that you don't care.		Green: The first I heard about the action was the next day. I felt hurt. I would like you to tell me ahead of time if you decide to do it again.
The VRP loaded words here are "should," "didn't," "proves," and " "don't care." The speaker is presenting himself (or herself) as a Victim, simultaneously being a Persecutor in his own Rescue effort.		An Observation (when I first heard), a Feeling (hurt), and a Want (would like you to tell me) are stated.