VRP: You were not listening.		Green: You began speaking while she was telling the story.
Saying what someone was, "not" doing, moreover inferring what was going on inside of his (or her) consciousness, listening-wise, is to operate as a Persecutor, making the other person a Victim in the interaction. Similar VRP statements are: You weren't polite. He doesn't care. You have no heart.		Three Observations here: The beginning of the speaking, the time frame, and the telling of the story. This could be followed with more Green information concerning how the speaker Feels, what the speaker is Thinking, and what the speaker Wants.